That's a great question, and something I still actively work on myself.
One thing I've learned is that asking good questions starts with respect - respect for the person you're asking and for their time. Being mindful of how and when you ask often matters as much as the question itself.
I also notice that thoughts often move faster than questions can be properly formed. Taking a moment to slow down and structure the question usually leads to clearer answers and a more productive discussion.
Personally, I've never been afraid to ask when I don't know something. For many people, this is a real barrier - there is a fear of looking uninformed or not knowing the "right" answer. But in my experience, avoiding questions slows growth far more than asking them.
Creating an environment where questions are welcomed - without judgment - is essential. When people feel safe to ask, learning accelerates, communication improves, and better decisions follow.
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Darya Stanskova M.ASCE
Cost Estimator, Construction Engineer, Power Engineer, Project Manager
Fort Myers FL
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Original Message:
Sent: 05-06-2021 08:32 AM
From: Mitchell Winkler
Subject: Asking Good Questions
I've always admired people that have an innate ability to ask good questions. This also includes asking the right questions and thriving in the process. My skills have improved over the years, mainly by watching others, but I'm still far from where I want to be? What have you learned about asking questions that will help others? Question asking is real art and can oft be a fine balance between getting what you want and need and being seen as arrogant or inappropriate.
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Mitch Winkler P.E., M.ASCE
Houston, TX
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